There is a lot of pressure in society today to have your life together by the time you hit your mid twenties ; to go to uni, get an amazing job that can support you, meet someone, buy a house, get married, have babies blah blah blah. If you’re my age,you’ve probably heard it all before and know exactly what I’m talking about!
But what about those of us who don’t have that? Who are still trying to figure out what the hell is going on? Who don’t know what career we want? And who haven’t met the right person to settle down with?
I am one of those above people. I didn’t go to uni because I didn’t know what I wanted to do. I then fell into several office jobs, none of which I really enjoyed or had any sort of passion for. I’m still trying to figure out what I want to do with my life (the reason I’m giving blogging a go) I haven’t met someone who I want to settle down with so I’m struggling to save for a mortgage on my own which is near enough impossible. And with all this going on you feel as though you’re falling behind everyone else your age. Do you know how much stress this causes me?!
At 26 the majority of my friends have at least one of the above going for them, whether that be an amazing career, a house, an engagement or a baby and it sometimes makes you feel like you should have that too.
Well let me tell you now…you shouldn’t feel like that! Whether you’re 21, 26, 30 or older, it’s okay to not have your shit together and still figuring out how to adult properly.
Your twenties are about making mistakes, taking risks, finding yourself, doing what you love and making the best memories. It shouldn’t be a time for worrying and panicking about what we don’t have. We should focus on all the great things we do have.
I need to take my own advice and just be happy with where I am now. I have great friends and family, I get to go on amazing holidays and make amazing memories every year and I have every opportunity to start a fresh and do whatever career I want to because I have nothing tieing me down. Just because these things aren’t happening for me right now, it doesn’t mean it won’t happen, it’s just not my time.
So girls, and guys, this post is basically telling you (and myself…I need reminding sometimes) not to panic and be happy with what you have, family, friends and good health. And if you’re not happy, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!
With love, Vicky xoxo